“When we say that we tolerate a headache, or our shabby apartment, or a neighbour, we certainly do not mean that we like them; but merely that despite our dislike, we shall endure them.”Anonymous Consider some examples. We tolerate: The…
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Reaction vs. Response
'Whoosh!' What a great way to express what happens to our emotions when we initially react to something we see as a threat or a scourge. Our instincts take over, and our blindingly fast emotions and reactions ride those instinctive…
How to Spot Your Hidden Agenda
Given the impressive abilities we as a species possess, it seems odd that we are not more skilled at understanding ourselves and our impact on others. However, there are valid reasons that prevent us from hearing and seeing ourselves in…
Agendas
As stated in the Founder’s Message for this issue’s Newsletter, Agendas (defined for the purposes of this article as the decision to carry out a series of steps in order to reach a goal), can serve as a helpful focus…
Benefit from Conflict
Does anyone benefit from conflict? The dynamics of conflict are the same whether they're on the battlefield, in business, or at home. Whether those conflicts are foreseen or unexpected, they all involve a jumble of thoughts, feelings, and reactions that…
Navigating the Unknown
"Some things are in our control, and others not," states The Enchiridion – a compilation of the teachings of the Stoic philosopher Epictetus. "Things in our control are opinion, pursuit, desire, aversion, and in a word, whatever are our own…
Wellbeing in Uncertain Times
Among many impacts, one of the most frequently reported effects of the global Covid-19 pandemic is a feeling of powerlessness / lack of control. Right now, and for the foreseeable future, you and I don't have any control over this…
The Scourge of Prejudice
Prejudice, from the Latin praejudicium or ‘pre-judgment’ (generally in a negative sense) is surely one of humankind’s greatest flaws. I cannot count the number of times I have negatively pre-judged a person or group – only to be proven wrong…
Navigating the Gloom and Doom
Yes indeed, managing the gloom and doom requires navigating. And as every good navigator knows, the first task is to look at where you want to go and then determine the best route to take. A good life-navigator also knows…
Criticize or Critique
Although the words criticize and critique are often used interchangeably, there is a huge difference between the two. Criticism perceives fault… says there is something wrong with an action, a behaviour, a performance. End of story. Full stop. A critique…